I have done the old cheerleading, I'm not ashamed to admit it though, as at times it does seem that it helps some women, thats not to say I've been like RA RA RA with the pompoms on at the top of my voice!! But when I started I did this, then I wentot a study day where they re-enacted a typical 2nd stage scene, one woman laid on the bed, the others were arms round her shoulders pushing her forwards-chin to chest etc.. saying "come on big deep breaths, thats it hold it for as long as you can and push etc etc as you can imagine, many of us sat there blushing!! Even though I had never been as bad as that, some of it was embarrasingly familiar!!
Afterwards the woman said she felt violated, it was awful, and really hit home, needless to say it completely changed my ways and the same offer gentle encouragement, sometimes words are not required at all are they? Just a gentle nod, a smile etc.
Great post though, good topic.

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