Thanks everyone for replying, I think its really good to get an insight into 'the family' today. I asked because I have a relatively unconventional/uncommon family set up.

I have 2 step sisters and one step brother, I was brought up by mum but saw my dad every week and we did fun stuff. My mum has been with my step dad for about 15 years now as has my dad with my step mum. Ive never thought of my brother and sister as half/step/whatever they are just my brother and sisters. I am now step mum to our two boys, they live with us and we bring them up but they see their birth mum regularly. Its not without its stresses and strains as big lil man has some problems with school (bright but doesnt like being told what to do) but he is fine at home with us, although he gives his birth mum/other family members a run for their money sometimes. Lil lil man is just cool we get along great, he is an angel for us and at school but again he can be an oik for others. My mum is a massive part of their life and sees them v regularly they call her Nanny and she thinks of them as her grandkids shes never made a distinction between our kids and my sisters kids. I know its unusual for a woman to meet a man who is raising two kids on his own and wondered if anyone has experienced this? When we are out everyone just thinks we are a normal a family and we are except they arent biologically ours together. They call me TallPoppy although lil man wants to try out other names and has asked if he can call me step mum or mum, I always say I dont mind what they call me and its up to them. I was semi-pressured to call my step dad, dad but it felt odd but then I was 15 so Id never pressure them to call be anything other than what they want too. Lil lil man told me in Kew gardens the other week that he wished I was his mum. Its a tough heart wrencher to reply to so I said, well I am you have two like I have two they are just a bit different.

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