I agree Shoshana.
I had a very traumatic birth with my first, it terrified me. My daughter also had her head 'banged' on the lamp they were using that caused a nasty burn and her been rushed off to be checked by a pedeatrition (sp!). She was then on SCBU for almost 4 weeks and as breastfeeding wasn't initiated until day 4 she wouldn't take to it which just broke my heart
I was lucky though that by the time I had my second child 8 years later, I had 'found' myself, so to speak and I was very clear about what I wanted from my birth and wasn't willing to be pushed around as had previousley happened.
I did get a lovely birth, although it still wasn't without it's worries, but, I feel with good support from midwives women can start to overcome their fears and go on to have better births
