Aww Angie,
It is so hard, I lived with that for many years, and it wears you down, wrecks your self confidence, and is just plain miserable.
If you can arrange for someone to look after the children, then you go for it hun, then he will see that he can't make all your decisions for you.
I can't understand why some men have to be so flaming narrow minded and awkward, I guess it comes down to the fact of their own insecurities, if you are at home all day, then you can't better yourself, and heaven forbid be better than they are...in their eyes.
I hope you go for it hunni, and i hope it all works out great for you, cos you know what? You deserve it.