I have just had a re read of this thread and I think this raises a really important matter, our emotions. Yes, we need to be professional but how can we stop ourselves from 'feeling'? surely if we go down that path then in 10 years time we will all be hardened off and dare I say, become emotionally distant from the women. Thats one of the major factors in why many of us want to follow this path, to be with woman, how can we be if we are so uptight? I believe we can judge situations and use our instincts about the appropriatness of emotioal responses. For example, hugging women, kissing babies, Ive seen this happen alot and is this wrong? Many as woman I have discharged came and gave me a great big squeezy hug before she left and I gave her a good ol' squeeze back whispering in her ear how well she did and how well she is doing. Some women need to hear 'you are a good mother' from someone that 'matters' and 'you are doing well'/ 'you are doing X right' / 'its ok to cry/be scared' well done' how can we say this with meaning if we are discouraged from 'feeling'? surely our instincts are what make us in tune with the women we care for? how close is intuition to feeling? how much of who we are goes into the care we give these women? if we cant feel can we be us? Yes there is a line, there are protocols, rules and regulations but surely behind these is the simple ethos, that we care for and serve the women who need us, professionally, with quality and with instinct and feeling..........

I think I need to start a new thread... Im off on one again!!

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