Re: Step Parents, unorthodox families, how do you do yours?
My parents split up before i was born, because my dad went off with one of my mum's best friends. The good news is that my dad and her are still together (even after a mid life crisis in which my dad had an affair with a 20 yr old) they have a son, my lil bro, who is 13. I get on really well with my stepmum and she's just part of my family. She has a son from her previous marriage, who's now 22, and we spent alot of our childhood together. I also get my stepmum's parents and her brother and sister with that too, and they're just a part of me too.
My dad has 3 sisters, 2 of them have been married with children, one of them 3 times, and they all have children of their own as my dad's sisters are all alot older than him.
My dad's dad died before i was even a year old, but i've been told he was a wonderful man. My dad's mother is very old and senile in a home, she's a right handful!!
My mum remarried when i was 3, and they have 2 children who are now 14 and 11. My stepdad has recently announced he wants a divorce from my mum, and he's been having an affair. My mum's devastated, and my sdad won't move out and is behaving like a total pig. I'm very angry with him and am still not sure i will ever speak to him again, he has always treated me differently to his children, although he's very controlling and agressive to us all. But hopefully the house will sell and they can all move away from him soon.
My mum's side of the family are a bit of a mess too, she has a brother and an adopted sister (who is simply part of the family, i am closer to her than my uncle, she has never been anything less). My gran and grandad still can't stand my dad for what he did all those years ago, and i recently didn't talk to them for 2 years because of an argument over them constantly bad-mouthing my dad and his family in front of me.
I am close to my stepdad's family too, he has a wonderful sister, who, thankfully, is very different from him, and his dad and stepmum are like grandparents to us.
My family is very big and diverse (my stepdad's family are rich and like the good life, my dad's family are working class but i love them to bits for their sense of humour and outlook on life) and they all teach me alot, whether good or bad. It can be very difficult sometimes, but at the end of the day I just love the people who love me back, and that's all i need.
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