The first thing that struck me with the inital post is I would NEVER grab hold of a woman's breast and 'shove a baby onto it' NEVER EVER.
I would ask if I could demonstrate a method she might find easier to use, and also ask if I could show her using her baby as a 'model' if you like lol.
I would sit and talk to her, ask her what worries, concerns she has, suggest she holds baby in skin to skin and forgets about feeding for a little while. Just has some quality time with her baby in a relaxed way before trying again.
If she wants to do that, get them both settled and leave them for a while, telling her to buzz if she needs anything at all.
After a while, if she hasn't buzzed, go back and check how she is doing, then talk to her about feeding, and what SHE wants to do, it is HER decision after all, not mine, she has to take the baby home, and she has to be responsible for feeding and nurturing it, so she needs to be happy and settled with whatever method she chooses.
Sorry for the rant, but I am passionate about breastfeeding, but equally passionate about heping women make informed choices.
