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cant seem to fill her!

Discussion in 'Beautiful Breastfeeding' started by Shelly04, Sep 30, 2011.

  1. Shelly04

    Shelly04 Member

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    I had my baby on monday, and am breast feeding but really dont seem to be filling her she feeds for hours at a time. Is this normal????? I really feel like giving up :'( x
  2. Tesni

    Tesni Well-Known Member

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    Take heart!
    First of all congratulations on your baby, you are learning to be a Mummy and she is adjusting to a whole new world. These precious first few days and weeks are a whirl of joy, tiredness, hormones and worry. You are doing fine I am sure but if you are not confident speak to your midwife in the first instance and perhaps ask to speak to a breast feeding peer supporter or a La Leche League advisor - they will be able to advise you on positioning, frequency of feeding and your baby's health :) if you can, relax and enjoy cuddling and resting with your baby. These sleepy and snuggly days will soon disappear so cherish your time - you have nothing more important than being with your little one and resting :)
  3. Wozza

    Wozza 2nd year :D Student Midwife

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    Congratulations on your baby xxx

    It can feel like that at times, I found attending breast feeding groups and getting support from others also breastfeeding really helps.

    Xxx
  4. monkeydoll

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    Hi Shelly04 :bighug: Breastfeeding can be very tiring. The way your baby is feeding is normal especially at the start when your establishing feeding. The more she feeds the more milk your body will make to fulfill her demands. Soon your body will make the right quantity of milk to fill her up. When I had my own baby she breastfeed every hour and a half to two hours day and night it was exhausting. But trust me if you can persevere it will get easier promise. Just know your giving your daughter the best start in life and creating a special bond between you is something to help you stay positive.

    Delegate chores to anyone else you can so you don't have so many other things to worry about.

    If it all becomes too much for you don't feel guilty if you stop, you can judge what you can handle. I am pro breastfeeding but you shouldn't feel pressured. All I know is what your baby is doing is normal. In my experience the first two weeks was the hardest then it became easier.

    Hope my advice helps xxx
  5. BluePixie

    BluePixie Well-Known Member

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    Hello! Congrats on your baby! :D

    It can seem at first that they just feed 24/7, and sometimes that may just be what they need to do for a few days to build up your milk supply (and because just think of how much a newborn has to grow!), or it may be that she is not feeding very efficiently, but the best way to know for sure would be to speak to a breastfeeding advisor. It'll be much easier for them to be able to watch her feed and see what is going on than for anyone on here to try and guess. Sorry if that sounds like a fob-off, it's honestly not and I remember very well thinking "will she EVER stop??" but I would hate it if you felt you had to stop because you were missing a vital piece of information, so please speak to someone who can come and see you in person! Your midwife should be able to arrange something. If your boobs are hurting, or if it hurts when you feed, then it's even more important for you to have someone take a look at how she is feeding as it may only take a minor adjustment to sort out. For the record, though, yes, it does stop in the end... but I'd be lying if I said you won't need a lot of patience and an "I'll deal with it later" attitude to all things non-baby for a few weeks but there comes a point when it becomes so easy you barely even notice yourself get a boob out, and a feed lasts only a few minutes.

    I found that things got easier when I learnt to make myself a "nest" with EVERYTHING within arm's reach, so I could sit there for hours if necessary without having to disturb the feed-monster. TV remote, phone, laptop, book, gallons of water, biscuits, blanket, book... you get the idea. Get it all within arms reach and then tell the world that if they want you, they'll have to come to you.

    ETA: LOL I said "book" twice. Spot the bookworm. :p
  6. Kizzi

    Kizzi Well-Known Member

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    The 1st few weeks of breastfeeding were so tiring, I rememeber it well. Is your daughter latched on properly (my apologies if she is) just I remember with my own daughter I didnt have a good enough latch to begin win with and it affected the way she fed meaning that she would need to be suckling for hours.

    Also, my daughter used to feed every 2 hours for sometimes an hour at a time, or other times feeds used to run in to each other or she would suckle for comfort. You need to basically get someone else to do housework or food shopping so you can just sit in one place and let her feed. Sounds bad I know, but I remember feeling so depressed as I tryed to get so much done whilst she wanted to feed. As her stomach grows it will get better. I agree with bluepixie about having everything in armsreach. After a few weeks, the constant feeding will stop,:)
  7. Shelly04

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    Thanks everyone, my midwife is coming out tomorrow so i will ask her if i have her latched on right, my breast or nipples rnt sore so i think she is on latched on correctly. This is my 7th baby but i bottle fed the rest, and really want to breast feed this time xxx thanks for all your advice xxx
  8. Tesni

    Tesni Well-Known Member

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    A breast fed baby has completely different feeding experiences to a bottlefed baby so relax and follow her lead and try not to judge by the previous babies. You will have to trust her :) with the right support this can be a new and rewarding experience, good luck and enjoy her :) get the older ones to pass you goodies while you rest :)
  9. Iris

    Iris RM Staff Member

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    We cannot offer medical or midwifery advice over the internet but it seems you know that you should ask your midwife for specific advice.

    I breastfed, so from the point of view of a mother I can say it is totally normal for babies to feed all the time in the first few days, this is why so many mothers give up, it's really hard when it seems like all you do is feed but if you can get past this stage, once your milk comes in babies do usually settle down into a pattern of feeding for less time and then sleeping for longer. Xx
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    make sure you're keeping really well hydrated as well hun, especially in this hot weather :) X

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