Help? Those that live apart from family during the week...

I found an easier way to word it.

Basically, at the moment I'm classified as having a spouse and a dependent child.

If I'm accepted and start the course, I will be an independent.

(No, I'm not abandoning my child and partner, but the only way we can work this out is for me to live in student digs during university days and placements and to travel back for weekends and those few precious holiday weeks. And basically anytime I get 2 days or more off).

Shall I apply as my current circumstances, or my circumstances when I start the course?

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I think you might still be classed as spouse and a mother, but I would call them up to check. Sorry cant be more helpful.

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I hope so too, I'm really worried about the emotional side of not seeing them for days and how I'd cope, I wondered if anyone else manages this set up well.

Thanks Wozza, think I'll post it in the student midwife area more students may see it then xx

Students that live apart from family during the week...

I've asked regarding money but does anyone spend their university days in a second home and go back their spouse/children for weekends and holidays (or any few days you may have off in a row).

I'm worried about not being able to cope, but this is the only way I can be a student now if I'm lucky enough to be offered a place.

I'm just looking for students who manage (not find it easy it must be hard) and cope knowing it's better for their family in the long-run.

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Hiya Catticus and good luck with your application hun......

I live away all week and for bursary and loan purposes I'm reliant on my husband...so yes I am independent but I'm in a relationship and not single.... and I don't get a lot!!

It is do-able, albeit tough but it was the only way for me to do it too. I'm in a student shared house M-F then I go home so I have both a mortgage and rent to pay + fuel for a 300mile round trip every week.....and emotionally it is difficult, i have cried a lot but it is getting better now. PM me if u want to chat...

DDxxx

Hey,,

im a 1st yr and this is what I do ... I live in birmingham and travel 3hrs home on weekends or anytime possible. I left 3 kids behind, my youngest being 5, she has struggled to be honest,, and it is heart wrenching when i have to tell her every weekend that she cant live with me.....

However, my circumstances are different, i split from there dad when i left and so i dont actually have a home now, the disruption probably hasnt helped her,, so like i say its not going to be like that for everybody, your situation may work well.. There is another girl i know who does it and her kids are young and they seem to be coping well.

It is hard, you will miss things you dont want to... at xmas i did a 6hour round trip one evening just to see their xmas concert!!!! so things are doable !!!

good luck to you

Malonesygirl xxx