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Is it normal to feel this way?

Discussion in 'General Chat' started by Lil Miss Sunshine, Feb 17, 2012.

  1. Lil Miss Sunshine Welfare Moderator

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    Hello :)
    I'm just wondering if this is normal. For example, the other day I arranged with a friend and her 4 kids to go out either thurs or fri and when she suggested 'both days' i felt like it would be too much. If I spend more than say 3 maybe 4 hours with the same people sometimes I just feel like I need to be on my own, it's not with everyone, just some people i'm friends with and it's not like they have done anything bad, they're lovely people but i just start feeling quite stressed out but i dont understand why.
    I've said before I don't like people turning up at my house without ringing me first, even if it's my mum and step dad... even if i get 20 mins notice it makes a huge difference to how i feel about people coming over.
    Another example is my friend's daughter, she's 10, keeps asking if she can sleep over my house or they're asking me to go with my kids and sleep over theirs but i just don't want to :-$
    I just like my own space in my own house and am happy to go out like every week and a half or so but some people in my life think i'm anti social for not wanting to meet up once or twice a week. I have been thinking do i have some sort of personality disorder or something or do other people feel like this?
    I don't feel depressed but i don't have much energy either.
    Would be interesting to hear other people's thoughts :) Also it probably sounds like some sort of social anxiety but i'm really happy to go out for the whole day by myself or with my husband and kids?!
  2. Wozza Moderator

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    I think it's normal...or I'm weird as well. I can't stand it when people turn up at my house unannounced. Because I'll usually be studying/tidying up/having 30 minutes peace! Or my house will be a tip and we'll all be in pyjamas!

    I also like my own company. Some days it's just nice to think you've nothing to do, no one to see! I get stressed out too, maybe not after four hours...but certainly all day. And definatly not everyone, just certain people I start feeling annoyed with them! They're fine in small doses.

    I do like to get out the house everyday for a bit. If I do more than three days I start to feel a bit cukoo. But just cos you don't doesn't mean you have a personality disorder!

    X
  3. Lil Miss Sunshine Welfare Moderator

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    Thanks wozza. I probably didn't make this clear when i posted but when I say i'm happy to go out every week and a half i mean to meet up with certain people. I love going out with my kids/hubby or by myself particularly out doors in the fresh air daily.
    Its nice to see that someone else feels similar, you're normal enough for me ;) so i feel better lol.
    Also the people turning up thing probably is the same reason as yours, i'm just trying to have a few mins peace or i'm still in my pyjamas or haven't tidied the living room or whatever.
    xx
  4. casualelegance Active Member

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    I'm exactly the same LMS. I don't mind meeting up with someone for a few hours, but I really like my own space as well and get cheesed off and grumpy otherwise!
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    its not just you, when i hang around with certain people too often it gets 'too much' and i start to stress out or even get a bit depressed :/ think its just one of those things, but then again im the sort of person happy to be by herself curled up with a good book :) xx
  6. Lil Miss Sunshine Welfare Moderator

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    ahh that's nice to know lol. I think the people i'm talking about in particular like to just sit on the sofa for hours but i feel like argh i need to get up and do this/that.
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    I feel the same as you. Love going with friends and hanging out for a few hours and have dinner, then I want to go home that night. I have some that want me to stay over and then we can do something the next day, but I generally say no to be honest because my time off is precious!

    Doesn't make you weird at all, it means you have your own life and enjoy your own company.
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    I'm the same in that I'm not hugely sociable, I love my own space and I am happy to see friends fairly infrequently - I don't want to live in other people's pockets!
  9. Wozza Moderator

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    Well then you're definatly normal! X
  10. Azalea Well-Known Member

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    I'm the same! Always worrying I'm some kind of social pariah or there's something wrong with me, I keep in touch daily with people via text or internet but in person too often and they bug me. I need my space and love it when me and hubby just spend time together, I meet up with my best friend once a month in person, we are just too busy to meet up in between and keep in touch by other means. I start feeling claustraphobic when people want too much from me... My mum for instance will ring several times a day and I can't breathe without her wanting to know about it before I do!

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