Losing a tiny baby - may help

I don't know how these situations would have been dealt with in previous years but I can just imagine it wouldn't be as good as it is now.

Its really nice that your midwife was so supportive and compassionate towards you.

I was talking to a mum just after I lost Isabella who lost her son 40 years ago. They just wrapped him in the sheet as he delivered and took him away. She never saw him or knew where he was buried and she had to beg to know what sex the baby was.

That must be heartbreaking, glad things have progressed since then x

Thank you. She'll be 2 next month so it's getting easier. I think they used to sort of think that they were doing you a favour - like you could move on and forget if they didn't make you see baby. I doubt they realised what a long lasting impact they caused.

It sounds really weird but I look forward to being able to be that good midwife for a grieving couple x

Thats not weird, i do too. x

when i did work experience on my trusts NNU i was shown the room where the parents can stay with their babies for as long as they want/need, its separate from the unit and the maternity unit so there less upset for the parents with other babies around. they are given a memory box also with hand and foot print cards, a candle, a certificate of birth in the unit, a disposible camara, a memory stone where the parents can write there babies name and dob on to put in the memory garden a teddy and little blanket for their baby to lie in.

they have people knit for them and they make blanket, hats, cardigans, and little dresses.
xx