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Discussion in 'Managing Emotions' started by Butterfly, Feb 4, 2012.

  1. AdVoCaTe Member

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    I am very sorry about the miscarriage, i hope you feel better soon. Make sure you do take care of yourself and spend some time to get better. :bighug:
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    I'm so very sorry for your loss and what you are going through, be kind to yourself and allow yourself to do whatever feels right for you at this time. :bighug: xxx
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    Hello I am sory to hear about the loss of your twins .
    This is very hard time to you and your family. It must b difficult for you.
    Please look after Your self .

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    Sorry for your loss. Take as much time as you need and take it easy xxxxxxxxxxxxxx
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    squeezy hugs from me, i can't begin to imagine how you feel :(
    Hope that some time out at home looking after yourself will help physically and start you on the road to physical recovery at least. Emotional 'recovery' will probably take a lot longer, and you'll remember your babies forever, so go easy on yourself, and make sure you're feeling less tired before you put more pressure on yourself to get back to uni (i know that uni seems like the be-all and end-all to life while you're a student, but your health and relationships are way more important, and uni will always be there!). make sure you're not anaemic if you lost a lot of blood xx

    You sound like you have a very supportive mentor so perhaps go and have a chat with her /go out for a coffee before you actually take the step back to going to placement (then you may discover the hidden tears that are bubbling below the surface - the ones you don't realise you have until they kind of overspill if you know what i mean!). She'll then know how you feel about things and know exactly what is happening if you have to 'excuse yourself and take an imaginary phone call from a woman' during an antenatal clinic or visit or something! (you can tell i'm a contingency plan kind of person!).

    Hope you can find some support from your uni cohort members when you feel ready xxx Stay strong, and make sure you share your feelings with your partner so you don't push each other away. xxx
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    I'm so sorry to hear this news sweetie. At the moment it is still very early for you, so if you are thinking about going back I would talk to your mentor, who sounds very supportive. You won't know how you will feel until you get back into the swing if things, so try it, and if you realise that you can't do it yet, then don't. Take some time for yourself, and remember that you have people around you who love you. You might find you get alot of "advice" and also what seem like quite thoughtless comments from people (I certainly did). I think people just aren't sure what to say for the best really, so just try and not let the things they say get to you

    I know it's no help now, but I promise you that you will feel better about things. You will be able to think about them without the tears (although not every time). I can also promise that you will never forget your babies- keep them in your heart always xx

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