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Reporting a midwife for bullying to NMC

Discussion in 'General Midwifery Discussions' started by Rosemary, Feb 22, 2013.

  1. Rosemary

    Rosemary Active Member

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    What does it take to report a midwife to NMC if the management doesn't take actions or seriously? I mean how much is enough and what if you don't have evidence?
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    Noo Spoilt Princess

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    I would have thought you'd need substantial evidence to potentially ruin a person's career.
  3. Rob

    Rob Chief Technical Officer at SMNET Staff Member

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    I would recommend you talk this matter over with your course tutor in confidence. I dare say Josie would be the best person to speak to in this instance as she can advise accordingly. Bullying is an issue we have dealt with before. Josie has written articles about this very topic in midwifery and has advised many people before. I think you should drop her a private message if you need confidential support and guidance.
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    Willy Wonka Well-Known Member

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    Hope youre ok hun xxx
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    Fizzpot Active Member

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    I think ruining someones career is unimportant if they're vile enough to bully.
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  6. Iris

    Iris RM Staff Member

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    It depends though, I read an article on bullying and it is not as black and white as you might think, bullying has to have four aspects, including intent. Also, what a lot of people perceive as bullying, really isn't intended by the so called bully and there are more appropriate ways to deal with it.

    From my interpretation, often the person perceiving themselves as the victim can be the bully, I've seen it happen here, someone doesn't like something someone has said, which was not intended to belittle the person, just disagreeing or even pointing out a flaw in their argument. Then the person who sees themselves as a victim starts a thread saying how someone made them feel awful etc. ect getting loads of people to say how horrible it was and how the person whose only crime was to have a better argument in a debate is made to feel awful and denigrated in the eyes of others. Generally it is the first victim most likely to make a formal complaint of bullying yet they were the ones who acted with intent to hurt the other and make others think less of them.

    The first point should be mediated communication. Often the 'bully' would be deeply mortified to think they have hurt anyone and can be supported to change their behaviour, often there are deeper issues behind it too and some more understanding and less judgement can go a long way to resolving the issue.

    On the other hand, someone who sets out to pick on vulnerable persons, really does deserve disciplinary.
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    I didn't mean for that to sound as black and white as it did lol! I just thought of the worse and pressed send, I hope the lady who feels like she's been bullied is ok and can get it looked into appropriately. Xx
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    Iris RM Staff Member

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    I know I wasn't having a go, I wish I had a ref to that article, it was old but really made me think. I can't even remember where I read it.

    Rosemary I hope you don't take offence at my post, I wasn't trying to dismiss your concerns. Even if the bullying behaviour is not actual bullying with intent, it has to be dealt with appropriately or the cycle continues. I hope your concerns are properly addressed. How far up inmanagement have you gone? I'm sure they cannot ignore a formal complaint x
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  9. Akua

    Akua Co-head of SMNET Plus & third year student midwife Staff Member Plus! Member

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    Have you spoken to your personal tutor at uni?
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    Rosemary Active Member

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    I'm not a student yet but msw. Management only said they can't move me and just to report if there are any other problems. The midwife in question had be demoted as she was found guilty of bullying a student before by nmc. She's known to be a bully & rude by most staff and tries to get other midwives in trouble apparently. My situation isn't as bad as that but I was just thinking how far is too far. My manager has come back so I'll have a word with her as I just started this new role in maternity, and I'm not the one to be picked on lol. Thanks for all your advise & concerns xxx

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