hi guys just wondering if anyone ever has doubts at all??sometimes i feel like im the only one and i havent even applied yet, my biggest worry is my family, im worried that i wont be able to achieve a degree but there are lots of people with families that can do it and just wonderd if theres anyone out there that has done it or has similar worries or is experiencing it now, a little information would go a long way, thanks guys
kellie xx

Not doubts as such. There are times that it is very hard and some shifts I fell I will never be able to do this and others I think it will be possible. Missing the kids is hard sometimes, as are other bad things that happen, where you question whether you can go on (my Mum died at Christmas)

I am always having trouble with confidence, many midwives have big ego's and it simply isn't me, outward displays of massive confidence certainly are not my bag. Hence looking after women is no probs, but handovers and presentations are complete hell!

There are the worries about not being good enough, smart enough, being able to remember everything and most of all not to let the women down.

Not being able to keep up with all the academic demands as well as practical learning ones. Then there is the doubt as to whether I will be able to get a job at the end of it!

On the positive side, there is an enormous amount to know and you can never know it all, but you learn an awful lot and very quickly too.

I try really hard to fit in at the hospital, work hard and ask lots of questions. I miss my kids, but don't worry about them.

And I keep very close to me the postive sides to being a midwife and that in a couple of years i will be the midwife I want to be. Looking after women in the best way I can.

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Definitely have doubts and I havent even started yet. Not doubts that I want to do it bit doubts that I am good enough, will cope with the workloand and juggling my family. Doubts that we will manage financially and that I will feel guilty.
The one thing I dont doubt however, is that I have to try otherwise I will always regret not following my dream.

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I still have doubts 4 years later, don't worry follow your heart, if you truly believe it is what you want to do then that will drive you through the course into succeeding xx

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i completely agree with you, i will follow my heart and do it coz if i dont try i will always regret it but i thin my main worry is my family, how im going to maintain a balance of family, work and many other things but have almost finished my access course which has helped me to prioritise and i no that im not just doin this for me its for the benefit of my family aswell, thank you for your help, i just wanted to no i wasnt the only one who worries xx

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I still have doubts - and I've been qualified two years!

Seriously, having doubts and worries just shows that you are thinking things through properly, and that you are wanting to get things right. Doing the course with (or without) kids is challenging on many levels, and anyone who doesn't have doubts is either not being realistic about what lies ahead - or deluding themself.

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absolutely agree, we will always have doubts, kids,family or not!
I, as am sure everyone did, had doubts, particularly before i started about being a single mum, paying for childcare, working longs shifts among others. But i just thought I needed to give it a go! The doubts are still there, but everyday i am a step closer to becoming qualified. The hurdles are not insurmountable by any means, believe me. Also, the way you feel has been felt so many times before, and people have started, survived and qualified the course with flying colours.
All i can advise is to start and give it a go. Work through each problem as it happens and not think about them all at once. Can't remember who, but someone has used the analogy of training as being a baby. You are born, you learn to sit up, you learn to crawl and before you know it you are walking and then running......and then qualified!
Good luck, we are all here to support you
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STMW 2nd year - no, really!

I have loads, doubts that I'm capable, that I'm too emotional.

Worried our finances will be so stretched they'll be break beyond repair.

Worried about how the pressure will affect the childen and my marriage.

Worries about taking advantage of my parents re: free childminding

I could go on...

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But you just cope, and look back and wonder how?? But you'll manage, steely determination, motivation ....

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I think all our doubts run along the same lines. I worry about not being good enough, about the kids, money etc.

I just think that I have to do this or I'll never know whether I can do it or not. I have wanted to do this so much and for so long that if I don't do it then I'll never know whether I was good enough to do it. Life is too short not to follow your dream and I'd hate to look back and know that I backed away from a challenge.

I believe every day will be a challenge and that there is so much to learn but that the reward will be amazing. I want to do the best that I can for the women in my care and be the best midwife I can be.

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