Hi ladies

I noticed on the questions asked at interview section a few people have been asked how they would cope with a back shift straight into an early shift and potentially not seeing their children for a few days. Or just how they would cope with shifts/children in general?

Can anyone shed any light on this. I don't know whether to say 'oh I'll be fine and he will be fine' when potentially it will be hard. Or say 'yes I will find it hard' but then that may weaken my application.

thanks

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Not a mum, but general opinion - honesty is the best policy! I'd tell tham that it'd be hard at first but you'll manage with family support etc... Tell the truth, you cannot get caught out then. You may find it ok to work round children but if you don't and you've told them that it'd all be fine then that doesn't look too good. Just my opinion love, I'm sure other people here, who have children, will answer better than I have!

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Thanks Kate

That makes sense, I guess I could use it as an opportunity to talk about what a good support network I have and turn it into a positive.

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That's the key - positive spin on EVERYTHING!

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I agree with Kate. I will say it will be hard but i know she wil be in good hands and can make up for it with days out when possibl etc........ I will also say i am leaving my daughter for a good cause, to help others and this for me will geniunley help ease the guilt and and heartache.

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I agree with Kate - honesty being the best policy and all that!! I think they expect that it's going to be tough on us Mums, they will just be looking to see that we can work around it
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Starting access course Sept 08 (hopefully!!)

Its not often you get that situation in practice as a student, you wont go 'days' without seeing your kids so please dont worry about that. As KB says, honesty is the best policy .

Has anyone gone 'days' without seeing their kids? often? I know Ive found it hard at times but its never been 'days'.

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I was asked at my interview how I'd cope with my kids being so young (they'll be 2 years and 7 months when I start), with regard to shift work etc.

I was honest and said that it would be difficult, but my husband is already a shiftworker and my mum is retired so between us all my boys will get plenty of love and affection, so I'm not worried about it not all coming from me.

Personally, I believe that I will appreciate my quality time with my sons a lot more when I'm not at home all day every day. Just be honest and I'm sure you'll be fine; good luck! X

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Son Number 2 Due on 1st October 2008!!

In all honesty - yes, I do goes days without seeing the girls and it's bloody awful! - Run's of long days is the worst for that - the worst should be 4 complete days without seeing them. When I feel bad about it it's horrible - if I don't feel bad - I feel guilty about that. When they play up when I am with them or cry when I leave them I feel bad what I'm putting them through - if they don't seem to mind at all then I feel like they don't really love me any more or whatever!!!

I seem to have a weekly crisis about whether to take some time out or whatever to be a mummy for a bit - goodness knows what I'm going to do!

I guess the actually not seeing them bit depends on how old they are and how long it takes you to get too or from your placement....

Another moany old responce from me - sorry guys!

I have been pondering this kind of situation for a while now. When i was on my access course it was only one day a week so things were fine !
But i suppose me being unsuccessful ( sp?? its early LOL ) will give me more time at home ?? When ( if ) i get a start in 2009 the youngest will be in nursery and the two eldest will be in high school .
With regards to night shifts and earlies i will ask my parents to stay over ? come over early ( i knew being an only child would work out ok !! ) If i whisper this will no one say any thing but i used to look forward to going to college to get a break from kids /house etc !! But obviously if it is a few days then i am sure the resulting pile of washing will remind me that i am still needed for some things ???


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