Whats the worst you've 'stuck it out' through??

Glad things turned out well, its great to reflect on it all, I use reflection all the time, and really enjoy reading back upon it.

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Glad everything turned out ok. I had something simular in my first year of Nursing, I had worked myself up into a right frenzy but very little was said.

So, so glad things are OK - are you now feeling better about the course in general and your own abilities? xxx

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Awww, glad it was all ok in the end, you would not be the first to go through this sort of thing, and am really glad that it wasn't as bad as you though it was going to be!


How are you feeling now?

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In my opinion there will always be somebody who wants to have a dig or a moan-home life etc can influence how people behave. I think that you have to develop a really thick skin, hold your tongue, earn your stripes, keep out of all gossip that goes on even if you are 'invited' to join - they always shoot the messenger-dont let it be your fault or that you said.
Hard i know. I have witnessed a couple of occasions when things have been said regarding students or other midwives behind their back. Say nothing.
Hope your interview at uni went ok. I truly believe that we have very few people on our side...sad but discovered that early on. Dont complain, dont say anything that isnt positive. Grin and bear it; three years will fly by then you can join the ranks.

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Your post concerns me incognito, you sound wounded and bruised and that you feel your only way to get thru is to grin and bare it.

You say you feel noone is on your side and you learnt that early on, you are only in year 1 you have 2 more to go, I wonder if youd feel this way in year 3. What we are trying to do is to give students somewhere to go, a clear process to follow if things do get out of hand in practice.

I couldnt ask anyone to grin and bare it, people fall to bits and its not right.

I know exactly what you are saying tho, you could be a midwife with 10 years experience writing that, dont put up - shut up. The midwife I am thinking of had 10 years experience and still felt her only way to get by was to take it all on the chin, cry in the toilets and comfort eat.

But where did it get her and the midwives and students after her?

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What do we live for, if it is not to make life less difficult for each other?
(George Eliot, 1860)

Hi guys - yeah feeling a lot better - though have my first shift tonight since and am feeling a little apprehensive shall we say!

I still feel relitively unconvinced that it is a culture I want to spend the rest of my working life being expossed to - but am right at this moment focusing clearly on the summer break and hoping it will work itself out?!

I love the community side of things - and love homebirths etc - and this is where I'd ultimately want to be - but to get to that I have many hospital years ahead of me - and whilst I love the shifts - I can't honestly think of a single thing else I like about hospital working - on the most part I really, really dislike it and most of what it stands for. Now the question is, can I or should I even keep going through all of this in the hope that one day I might get a cushy little community number?!?! Any thoughts???

I don't know - I'm sure the next shift or two will take me either way - if they're horrible with lots of trauma or nastiness I guess that could take me one way - but then if everyones lovely and I get a couple of nice 'normal' deliveries etc I could easilly come away thinking it's all good - maybe!?!?

Whats a girl to do?!? Any insight as to how to know your own mind - a trick I could really do with learning!!

Thanks again for caring though ladies - means a lot

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Hi hun,

No one would blame you for feeling apprehensive about your first shift back after what happened.

My advice would be not to judge your future in midwifery on just one or two shifts, we all know that we can go in today and have the worst shift ever, then go back tomorrow and have the best shift ever, where would that leave you?

I would suggest leaving any decisions until your summer break, then you will have some shifts behind you, and some time away to think clearer about what you want to do.

As I said to you earlier in the thread and via pm, whatever you decide to do, don't make that decision in haste, take your time to think it through carefully, because at the end of the day this is your future you are deciding about, and you want to be 100% sure you make the right choice.

Lots of luck love, hope your shift goes well, and if you want a chat at anytime then please send me a pm. xx

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Student Midwife 2007
Student uni rep
Educational Resources Manager

PAB Support Worker

I second MWM!

If the worst comes to the worst, and you decide at this time that its not for you take an interrupt, rather than quitting. I know of one girl who did this and came back with renewed enthusiasm 2 years later to complete. You never know!!! xxx

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Hey Norman just what everybody else has said really - and use this experience to become the midwiwife you want to be - one day in the not to distant future you will be a practicing midwife mentoring students yourself .
Don't let one blip - if that is what it is - stop you doing a job you loveHope everything went okay !