awe kids are mega lully aint they? x

Thats great that you've come through it with the help of your tutors, 1 of mine was really good when I had my gynae and found all the TOP's difficult to deal with inparticular the 'later ones' so sad x

It is really nice to hear that your tutors are looking out for you emotionally wise. I had difficulty earlier this year with being 'too emotionally attached to woman and crying at their birth" and my tutor was great and asked me what had happened at my own personal birthing experience to try to understand why I was feeling this way.

I had a c/section due to Cameron being breech and it affected quite a lot and I guess it still does anyway my tutor was great, getting me touch with free counselling if I wanted to and giving me hugs etc.

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I don't think there is anything wrong with crying at a birth at all, there is so much emotion involved its difficult not to, I think sometimes thats the problem with midwifery that some are so detached from it all like they have all these barriers around them, its no wonder students find it difficult, one of my mentors sheds a tear at practically every delivery and always gives them a big kiss and a cuddle afterwards and tells them how fantastic they were, she's been qualified 30 years and she said she still gets the same kick out of a delivery as she did from being a student-needless to say she's an inspiration to all of us students, we all call her 'Aunty' bless her she's fab, she's always said not to be afraid of crying, even with stillbirth she said you should show your emotions.

Aww, that's wonderful! I still cry at every birth, it's such a beautiful thing! I can't help it, I'm an incredibly empathic person and all the emotions just overwhelm me. There's just something so absolutely beautiful at seeing a woman work so hard and go through such a struggle then to see her face as soon as that baby is placed in her arms...it's wonderful! She is at once incredibly vulnerable and yet the strongest she has ever been. Such a transition and I always feel extremely honored to have been there for that.

What keeps me motivated ....??

Well .... working my way up in my job ...

cuddles every night from my hubby


Puddings ....

and my friends ...............

Ive never actually 'cried' but I have welled up a fair few times!!! Ive never been chastised for it either! I still get a lump in my throat sometimes tho....

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I have just had a re read of this thread and I think this raises a really important matter, our emotions. Yes, we need to be professional but how can we stop ourselves from 'feeling'? surely if we go down that path then in 10 years time we will all be hardened off and dare I say, become emotionally distant from the women. Thats one of the major factors in why many of us want to follow this path, to be with woman, how can we be if we are so uptight? I believe we can judge situations and use our instincts about the appropriatness of emotioal responses. For example, hugging women, kissing babies, Ive seen this happen alot and is this wrong? Many as woman I have discharged came and gave me a great big squeezy hug before she left and I gave her a good ol' squeeze back whispering in her ear how well she did and how well she is doing. Some women need to hear 'you are a good mother' from someone that 'matters' and 'you are doing well'/ 'you are doing X right' / 'its ok to cry/be scared' well done' how can we say this with meaning if we are discouraged from 'feeling'? surely our instincts are what make us in tune with the women we care for? how close is intuition to feeling? how much of who we are goes into the care we give these women? if we cant feel can we be us? Yes there is a line, there are protocols, rules and regulations but surely behind these is the simple ethos, that we care for and serve the women who need us, professionally, with quality and with instinct and feeling..........

I think I need to start a new thread... Im off on one again!!

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Christopher Robin in Pooh's Grand Adventure

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When I find out what motivates me I will post it on here, but I better hurry up and find out what it is.

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Hmmm...


Well my life has changed a great deal since starting this course.

But the thing thar keeps me going is my kids, the wonderful women.

THe horses and the knowlege my Dad is with me and is proud of me.

My personal tutor is the sweetest woman you could ever meet, she calls us all special (yup, we are speshul!!!!!) she is a terrific support and I am so pleased to see her on placement. So definately her too!

I cannot see that I would be any good at this job if I had no emotions. I hjave been told on numerous occasions to toughen up and do not see why I should, we all need to have a soft side, don't we? After all, why else would we do it?

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