Gutted and dont know what to do

Hi guys, just found out some awful news, I have suffered from fertility probs for years and was told to have my children young and I had my daughter 3 years ago. Myself and my new partner want our own kids but we were planning to do this after I had qualified but today I have been told my condition has worsened and that if I want more kids I shouldnt wait. I really dont know what to do because if I have a child now I might not ever live my dream of becoming a Midwife due to financial constraints etc, plus the reason I started this now was because I only have part time care of my daughter as she stays with her dad half the time - making it easier for me to study. Also me and my partner have only been a couple for a year and although we have known each other for 9 years I dont think we are ready in our relationship. if I did get a place and then found out I was pregnant how easy is it to defer and what would happen if I got pregnant halfway through... do you have to start all over again??? Really dont know what to do need some advice guys.............

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Oh Claire that really is awful I am so sorry for you. I'm in no position to advise you what to do but just wanted to say I hope things work out for you.

I believe someone has just joined who got a place and then had to defer because she got pregnant, so there is hope. xx

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Hi

Sorry to hear of your dilemma. All I can suggest is that you take things one step at a time. You are on your access course and who knows how long it may take to get pregnant, if you want to try now.I guess what I am trying rather ineptly to say is that none of us have a crystal ball to be able to see the future. You have to live your life for now and deal with things as and when they happen. You have still got plenty of time to pursue midwifery and if you do get pregnant either after you get a place, you can defer and if you get pregnant while on the course, as long as you complete and pass the year it is possible to come back to the degree.

I hope that I have made some sense, if not then please feel free to ignore me. I really hope that you work things out.

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Hi Claire
So sorry to hear of your news, i know that if you did get pregnant during your course you wouldn't have to start all aover again, you could step off from the course, then re start back when ready at the point you left, i think also i am right in thinking students get maternity pay now too.

Hope this helps x

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They'll always need midwives - be it qualifying in 4 years or 40 (though I'd hope you wouldn't have to wait that long!!)

cheers guys it does help talking on here, I think I am going to apply for sept 09 as planned and see what happens in the meantime and if I get pregnant then I will have to change my plans............. why does life have to throw so many curve balls!!!

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To keep us on our toes and stop us getting bored in my opinion.

Good luck xx

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i just want to say good luck with everything you decide to do and may all your dreams come true . you deserve it x x x x

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Claire i just wanted to say im sorry life is hitting you with lots at the mo. I just wanted to wish you well with everything that happens. X Life is not easy at times.

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Hi Claire

Sorry to hear about your dilemma & your problems. If you do decide that it's the right time for you & your new man, then go for it. There will always be ways around childcare, money issues & other stuff.

Well, at least that's what I'm hoping anyway! We're currently trying for baby #3 (I'm 38 so that's one thing I don't want to put off !), and if we're lucky enough, I may still apply for 2009, or I may put off applying until 2010 or even 2011 when they'll all be a little bit older! (although it all sounds soooooo far away at the moment!)

As someone said in another post, they'll always need midwives whether it's in 4 years or more. You'll only be putting it off for another year or two & you WILL get there!!! And you do get maternity leave from uni from what I've read somewhere.

Good luck with whatever you decide

Sharon x

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