feelin like this is an impossible dream :(

Hi

Sorry in advance but I am gonna be drooning onFor the past few weeks I have been thinking more and more that the whole dream of becoming a midwife is just a silly impossabilty and I will never make it, there just seems to be so many obsticles in my way and Im just worrying so much about the whole process;.
For starters I am already really struggling finiacially so will have to change to the parttime access course in order to be able to fit in a job, and then IF I eventually manage to get into university I am paniking on how Id fit the course around childcare and a job, I know that you have to do work placements in various settings with unsociable hours and I know that childcare just does not fit in with these hours, I dont have any one who can help me out to look after kids either, my mum is too far away, dad too busy and doesnt like to babysit too often and my ex rarely see his kids and is actively trying to pressurise me into quittin this whole dream of becomin a midwife anyway;.
So then even if I managed by some miricle to make it through uni I got to thinking that it would be impossible then to fit a midwifery job around childcare cus as far as I know midwifes do very unsociable hours.
I want this so much though and have done for years, just feel like am fighting for nothing and should just quit now as am also thinkin am just not cut out for this am so so sorry that I have rambled on so much just worryin so much and needed to see it all in black and white.

Gail xxxx

Gail, its very normal to have times when you feel like this trust me! I can totally understand what you are saying as I have felt the same on many occassions and I can bet you alot of the other ladies on here have to.
No matter how impossible something seems, I am a great beliver in that if you want something bad enough there is always a way around it. It sounds to me like midwifery is in your heart therefore you should follow it and have more confidence in yourself and your abilities. You can do this!!! Don't give up, you'll always regret it if you do. GOOD LUCK!!! xxxxx

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you can do it , it always seems harder beforeyou start anything one you do start you will get into a routine and find a way to make it work for you, you will get help with money, good luck

As mummy3monsters says - where there's a will there's a way!!

How old are your children? Did you know that you can get childminders for overnight??? Most county's are actively recruiting this kind of childminder so within a couple of years - when you'd need them - they should be far easier to come across!!

Your doing this for your childrens future as much as your own after all!!

Good luck and stick with it!!

Good luck and don't gove up on your dream! Life has a funny way of working out, even if it's not how you thought it would, when the time comes, it'll fall into place. Good luck!

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Just wanted to say good luck. Don;t give up on your dream if this is what you really really want to do. There are lots of us with children with similar dilemmas! Good luck
xxx

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Karen
Currently doing access course part-time Yay! I'm on my way now

I'm feeling the same :-( I want to do this so much. I have just discovered this forum and now my head is all over the place and I can't take it all in, there is so much to read and get my head around. I have 3 small children and a severely mentally ill husband (bipolar disorder) and am worried I will never be able to manage everything. I have a habbit of working these things out somehow. When I was doing my music degree I was pregnant during my second year (with my 2nd child) and went back with an 11 week old baby for my 3rd year and somehow managed to finish, so i know I can make these things work when my head is in the right place.

Arrrgghhh my head!

Just want to wish you good luck with every thing, it will all fall into place eventually.
If it something you've always wanted to do then just go for it i know its not that easy but just see it like its for yours and your childrens future. x x

Just wanted to echo what others have been saying by wishing you the best of luck, and to tell you that it is possible! I think that where there's a will there's away! You seem very passionate about midwifery and I don't think that it will ever go away! So you NEED to do this!

Again as others have said, you will find people to help you hun and you will manage! It may seem impossible now but you will do it! You will have all the support of us SM.NETers too haha whenever you need a moan or a helping hand! We will all be here for you!

x x x

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Think as you can see we all have days like this, i think that at the begining it feels like such a huge mountain to climb and to be honest at times it really can be.

I've found the whole application process really stressful at times, don't think its supposed to be that way but i'm a bit of a worrier!

There are loads of us on here with kids/husbands/jobs and the other rubbish that life will throw at you - you can do this keep going and keep smiling it will all be worth it in the end

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